Friday, May 30, 2008
My husband’s family had 6 kids. He always says that by the time it came to the last children (him and his brother) his parents just said yes to everything. They got away with a lot of things the first four did not while growing up. There are three sisters in the family and three brothers. All the boys went to college and all the girls did not. Mom and dad paid for all the education for the boys in private schools but not the girls. His mother often said that the girls could marry rich men while the boys had to take care of their wives and family and therefore needed to go to college. Two of the sisters say that’s just the way it was and accept it. One sister, Sandra is very angry about it and I don’t blame her. She says that her life would have been much better if she were encouraged to go to college. All her adult life she did secretarial work but felt she was capable of much more. Sandra had a special aptitude for science in high school. She was one of three girls in her honors biology class the rest were boys. Sandra’s mom often told Sandra she did not have to take honors biology because she could not ever become a biologist. Her mom reminded her often she was not going to college. Instead Billy, the oldest boy was pushed into biology honors classes he now says he hated. Sandra said she was proud that she could prove her capabilities right along side boys. She would get better grades than her brother had. However her mother stressed her out and eventually Sandra dropped the class: “the longstanding belief that females innately have less aptitude and ability in math and science has helped erect barriers to women’s participation in science and math education, not to mention careers in those fields” (p192). Sandra regretted leaving the class and never taking another honors science class again for a long time. In the time period she left the class Sandra said that she found it easier to make friends as she stopped being tomboyish (perceived as trying to be like boys) and became more of a “nice girl” (p199) which made her mother happy. But recently she has gone back to school and is majoring in marine biology. Sandra plans to take her life plans more seriously and eventually when she graduates research all the sea life she can find. Her brother Billy works in an office as an executive. Are there still more boys in honors math and science classes?
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The media is always advertising thinness in females and it gets really worrisome when the younger ones get the message too. When my daughter was about 10 she asked me how she could lose weight because her best friend told her she was chubby. I of course told her she was not going on a diet and also asked where her friend got that idea from. She told me it was from the show Americas Next Top Model. Even though the show tries to include plus size models kids still want to be the skinny models because of the accepted view from our culture which needs to change into a more healthier and positive message.
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I work in a high school and can still sadly say that honors bio classes are mostly filled with boys and just a couple of girls here and there. I think the bias may start at home with the parents needing to encourage their daughters into the math and science fields.
May 30, 2008 9:31 PM
Linda,
So, many families have grown up with this notion that girls are mothers and secretaries and boys are the breadwinners. I cheered at the end of your post that your sister in law was making her dreams happen! This might be a good influence media has had on us! Females can have all kinds of careers like doctors, and lawyers, etc.!
Linda said...
Interesting topic. I wonder if Hilary would have been more popular if she did not automatically carry around the ordeal of Bill Clinton's last couple of years of presidency. I totally agree instead of focusing on issues of what she would do as president the media loved to focus on her mannerisms, clothes and hair. The worst for me was when she was said to be too manly but then was labeled too much of an emotional woman. She could not win the media over. Maybe America was not ready for a woman president but Hilary may have broke the ice for the future.
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